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The pursuit of happyness
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6 ans agoon
[simplicity-save-for-later]This is it. These are the exact moments that I love, adore and cherish. You would surely say, staying at home all night long, it’s simple. It’s nothing. What kind of pleasure can somebody have from staying at home browsing reddit, reading, talking with family and all those boring stuff you do when you can’t find pals with whom you can hang out? What is the purpose of choosing to spend the night away from any kind of fun and entertainment?
I guess there is a word for that
But this not about loving to stay at home. I, myself, am that kind of person that would say that too, but just not tonight. This is about the simplicity of the act in itself. That is exactly it, the simplicity of the thing that flourishes me. A ramadan night at home, mother at my side, two cups of turkish coffee, some traditional pastry and good music. What can we demand more from life?
We make one hell of an effort, we hustle hard, we work our eyes out to have the best results possible, the best degree, then the best job, more money, more luxuary, more ease, more everything all over again. And what for? What’s the point of all of this, if it’s not for our good common cause, for the sake of happiness?
I know that you are saying to yourself that my words are utter bullsh*t, and here we go again wih the famous cheesy speech everybody tells himself in order to dodge working or to justify his failiure, laziness or whatever. But, I remind you, again, that I believe that my mission is to root the cheapness out of the clichés. Keep in mind, clichés are not necessarily bad, after all there is a reason why they became common! And like always, the oldest clichés are the truest ones.
We are all in constant search of happiness. And every one of us has their own definition. Me, I already have this happiness by my side, what else could I ask from life, then? Why do I have to never settle when the persons I love the most in this world are by my side and that I am already living these good moments?
Moments. That is exactly why.
Whether we like it or not, even unwillingly, we always search for that, let’s say, stable phase of our lives. But our fault is that we imagine it as a destination, as if our lives are that kind of quest which in its end resides the ultimate well-being.
I guess you know me well now. This is that part where you get to realise that its not, that’s if you don’t already know that!
You must’ve had your own sad states. Then, life seems to never cheer you up, and you say to yourself, despite it all, that everything must come to an end, and maybe it seems to you that it’s some desperate words you keep repeating just to make yourself feel better, but they actually turn out to be true, and eventually, you get to that point where your own infinite sadness vanishes away.
Yes. You know it now. So is your happiness. And we seem to never try and realise it like we do with our down moments. I just want to tell you something, just to pat on your shoulder and point out the obvious fact you were always ignoring. You are always happy. It’s just not continuous, but what is eventually? As you said, and as you’ll always say, everything must come to an end.
« Happiness is a non-continuous function »
-Oumeima Ammari 😁
But what’s making us think that we are still on the search of it and never notice that it is always there?
The act of realisation.
You never live something until you realise it, process it with your brain and accept it within you. And since we are such big drama queens, we realise sadness more than deserved and never give it a try and for once, stop and say « this thing I’m currently living is actually being happy! »
The thing is that, in the middle of that exact moment, you just have to take a step back, contemplate what’s around you and realise that all those big goals are not the deal, but this is it. These people with these places in these exact circumstances make the perfect combination to my own happiness.
So let’s stop torturing ourselves with always searching far and vague. I’m not saying we mustn’t look for our future, but that we should always stop delaying our happiness as if it is the final result of it all. Look for it in the details of now, of your everyday life and always remember, once realised, happiness is lived.
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The Quest for Self-Discovery
As individuals and members of the human race, we should devote our greatest effort to discovering who we truly are. We often arrogantly proclaim to know ourselves better than anyone else, but do we? When we hear the word “fear,” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? It likely conjures images of trauma and negative experiences. This amalgamation of letters has gripped many of us, playing a significant role in our existence.
Fear’s Significance and History
“Fear.” This small word may seem insignificant, yet it is full of meaning and history. Most people deeply care about their lives, and this tendency exists thanks to fear, even if many tremble at the mere mention of it.
The Denial of Fear
As humans, we have a tendency to deny what we don’t understand. We often deny our fear. This is understandable; we are naturally drawn to heroic narratives. Everyone loves tales of bravery and fearlessness. We revel in stories of victory and triumph. So, why should we care about fear?
Fear as a Fundamental Human Trait
Fear is a fundamental aspect of our humanity. What kind of brave person denies their true identity, unless we are discussing cowardice? Fear is a powerful emotion; it can speak without uttering a word. While fear may make us seem weak or inferior, it can also affirm our humanity. Fear serves as both a guardian and a ruler, governing our choices and decisions. And believe me, ruling is no easy task, especially in an unstable democracy of emotions and chemicals.
Fear as a Survival Mechanism
When the kingdom is under attack, fear can override reason and logic to ensure survival, even if the perceived danger is illusory. Fear acts as a musician, playing the drumbeats of our lives, its music resonating with the world around us. This vibration takes hold of the souls of all living beings.
Fear’s Role in Time and Perception
When fear takes charge, we feel our existence connect with the universe. We sense our lives intertwining with something vast and complex. Time slows down, transforming into something else entirely, while our perception sharpens, turning our world into a battlefield.
Fear as the Overprotective Mother
Fear can be likened to an overprotective mother, striving to shield her children, yet her protectiveness may hinder their growth and limit their potential. This complex emotion plays dual roles, serving as both protector and sage.
Fear’s Parasitic Nature
This inherited facet of our evolution influences our daily behaviors and shapes our character. At times, it turns into a parasite, draining our energy and hindering our progress. Unlike typical parasites, this inner fire originates from our own being; it can stifle our movement or compel us to act impulsively.
Fear’s Betrayal in Communication
This force can sometimes act disloyally, betraying its creator. For example, when our fear of judgment undermines our ability to communicate clearly, it jeopardizes our goals ,whether making a good impression or articulating a point. Miscommunication often leads to misunderstandings.
The Overwhelming Force of Fear
Viewing the world from this perspective can be enlightening, even if we cannot prove we share the same perceptions. When fear becomes overwhelming, it can manifest as a mentally unstable individual grappling with severe trust issues. This emotion does not easily relinquish control over our destiny or our capacity for change.
Fear’s Relationship with Learning and Future Prediction
Fear compels us to obsess over predicting the future and learning from the past, as it intensely despises pain, especially when repeated. Fear’s aversion to pain fuels our motivation and imagination, enabling us to predict effectively and avoid obstacles. Surprisingly, fear can accelerate the learning process.
Fear’s Role in Human Beliefs
This complex chemical response empowers human beliefs and convictions, adding a unique spark that transforms them into dogma, shaping our behavior. Fear renders beliefs unquestionable; when we deny our beliefs, we deny our identity. All humans have standards, fortified by fear. Without fear, we are nobody. Fear is, in essence, us.
Modern Fears and Illusions
Our fears of change, rejection, the unknown, failure, loneliness, dissatisfaction, and unmet expectations are illusions that have become overly significant in our lives. While desire undeniably influences these fears, they have overshadowed fear’s original purpose: survival and the preservation of our existence.
Mental Survival in the 21st Century
We still engage in the same primitive survival game, but today’s survival is more mental than physical. In the 21st century, we battle internal dangers and threats. The technological and scientific revolution has shifted our struggles from the external world to our minds.
Emptiness and the Human Spirit
Homo sapiens no longer strive to coexist with the external world; our focus has shifted to mental survival. Humanity, with its problem-solving tendencies, may even create challenges just to enjoy overcoming them. While we abhor pain, we also cannot tolerate emptiness.
Fear and the Freedom of Choice
The human spirit is unaccustomed to emptiness and the freedom of choice. We thrive under pressure. Fear, once selected by nature for survival, has become less useful in a world dominated by peace. Our violent nature, no longer expressed physically, threatens either our destruction or our evolution.
The Inner Predators
If violence once protected us from external threats, today’s predators reside within us. Can we protect ourselves from ourselves and our potential actions? This is a question we must explore.
The Future of Fear
We try to envision virtual dangers to validate fear, but how long can this continue? Is it possible that fear will eventually be selected out by nature and become obsolete? If fear’s only remaining role is in competition, isn’t that more closely related to greed, desire, and humanity’s inherent hunger for power and occupation? Can fear survive in the modern world? That is the question.
Written By: Habib Riden
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