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Schools and high-schools, places where we learn, where we make friends, experience new things, make a lot of wonderful memories.. Is that totally true?

A small clarification:

No, it feels like it is missing something.. Something that not the majority of students have been through, and something that, unfortunately, some people think is funny,cool even.

The ugly truth speaks, to wake you up, and make you realize that it’s actually PAINFUL, HURTFUL, SHAMEFUL and UNFAIR.

Have you recognized it? It’s bullying, and yes I was a victim of it.

Waking up every morning, getting dressed, going out, smiling..thinking it’ll be a better day than yesterday..

But I end up crying like a little child, or falling on the gound, or putting on my headphones just to survive through the string of insults stabbing me mercilessly, trying to hold all the pain inside me.

Why ?

I couldn’t find an answer yet.. I still don’t know what’s funny or cool about humiliating other kids and turning their life into hell, how could they possibly think that?

Cool and popular kids were never superior, we were, just as they said, « different » in a way that made us feel like we didn’t belong.

They made us feel uncomfortable and unwanted, even though we blonged to the same school , we felt like we came from another planet.

See? It’s not logical..

Who is in control?

Want to know more about stuff that can get you bullied? Let me list you some:

Being too fat,… or too skinny (yeah)

Wearing glasses or braces

Being a « nerd » which became a trend now

Wearing unfashionable clothes

Being  »ugly »

What?

Yes, being ugly as they say, no make up, a beautiful hairstyle, a sexy and attractive body, fashionable clothes..

But we all know that there is a fact they keep omitting; WE DIDN’T CREATE OURSELVES ..That’s the way we look. Don’t judge people.. You might be getting the wrong image..

They judge you for being unathletic, being single, having different interests (more like listening to rock or metal which makes you a satanist for them or a depressed emo too), sometimes even having a different skin color, and too many other things that really shouldn’t matter this much actually..

By this much, I mean enough to get you punched.. fall on the floor daily.. get your head shoved into the toilet.. spending the night crying in bed, thinking about what prank is waiting for you tomorrow: a ball in the face? Mud all over your clothes? Water balloons? Having to walk through waves of endless silly jokes, bad words, insults.. tearing you apart.. killing you day after day and making you give up on life.. on fun.

Having no one by your side since no one would like to hang out with the « losers », right? Painful, isn’t it?

Sitting alone during lunch, breaks, class, maybe a prank would break that loneliness or you might just end up hungry since they would steal your food.

Your smile, your happiness, passion, ambition, and creativity.

« You’re scaring me.. » « Stop.. » we whispered..

Yes, they make you become numb.. All you did was study, get humiliated, and go home.

I was there, I felt weak and vulnerable because of someone stronger, more powerful or maybe more « popular ».. I couldn’t stop it..

It’s haunting me everywhere.. » useless », « ugly », « male », « guy », « weirdo .. »,  » emo », « flat ».. I won’t mention it all..

It hurts..Do they realize? I kept ignoring their words, replacing them with music flowing in my ears.

Some used me so I would help them get good grades; they pretended to be my friends, but I ended up walking away since they made fun of me whenever they had the chance. Do they enjoy seeing other people crying or bleeding? 

How will we get rid of endless fear?

I can say that you’re to become fake, to follow them. But no, what about you sticking up to whoever you are? How about you show some rage? Some anger? Maybe they’ll make fun of you again or you’ll end up getting hit, but it’s worth it to be honest.

It makes you feel satisfied whenever you think about it.

I tried fighting fire with ice at first, but it only made me melt.. I replaced ice with fire and here I am.

Even though it doesn’t always work. But we need to try and break the ice cubes we caged ourselves in.

Don’t cry.. Instead, show them how bugs could kill lions.

Teenagers suffered and are still suffering from this issue that we don’t discuss a lot but need to..

They’re helpless and depressed, they feel like they’re outsiders, aliens, sometimes even clowns.

All what they will face are isolation years.. But making a decision to change and fight for yourself is a must..

Bullying is unstoppapble.. So are you, and them, everyone who feels or felt the same way as I did.

So it’s useless for you to stand still and watch yourself become emotionless day after day..

What I want to say is, that no matter how desperate you felt, you have to clean up the dust all over your clothes and speak ..

Shout it outloud : » YOU DON’T OWN ME ..AND YOU WILL NEVER OWN ME . I HAVE A LIFE AND IT HAS A PURPOSE, SO STAY OUT OF IT , STAY AWAY FROM ME , ENOUGH PAIN .. ARE YOU DONE YET ? HIT ME HARDER BECAUSE I’M NOT GIVING UP YET. I DESERVE TO BE HERE , YOU’RE NOT BETTER . »

You hear that coming out of different broken souls?

Crying endlessly, running away.. was a solution until we’ve realized it was a useless one..

Make friends who would actually look deeper for how nice and helpful you might be.

How funny and cool you may be ..

Ugliness can hide  »cool stuff » as they say.. Find people who would actually care, and would like to get to know you as a PERSON.

It’s hard to get yourself out of your shell, but it’s more than worth it since you’ll  also get yourself out of a living hell.

Yes, I’ll say it.. Schools and students’ lives are not only about exams or success or grades.. It hides painful memories of people sitting in the corner wishing they could actually laugh or have fun just like the « cool kids ». What if this is actually true?

I would speak forever but I’ll let you finish my words.

Hurt enough to be as happy as I am right now.

Thankful for rising against what I used to call monsters.

 

 

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The Dual Nature of Fear: Protector and Parasite

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Fear: Friend or Foe?

What if fear isn’t your enemy but your greatest ally? Explore how this powerful emotion secretly shapes your life and might be the key to unlocking your true self.

 

The Quest for Self-Discovery

As individuals and members of the human race, we should devote our greatest effort to discovering who we truly are. We often arrogantly proclaim to know ourselves better than anyone else, but do we? When we hear the word “fear,” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? It likely conjures images of trauma and negative experiences. This amalgamation of letters has gripped many of us, playing a significant role in our existence.

 

Fear’s Significance and History

“Fear.” This small word may seem insignificant, yet it is full of meaning and history. Most people deeply care about their lives, and this tendency exists thanks to fear, even if many tremble at the mere mention of it.

 

The Denial of Fear

As humans, we have a tendency to deny what we don’t understand. We often deny our fear. This is understandable; we are naturally drawn to heroic narratives. Everyone loves tales of bravery and fearlessness. We revel in stories of victory and triumph. So, why should we care about fear?

 

Fear as a Fundamental Human Trait

Fear is a fundamental aspect of our humanity. What kind of brave person denies their true identity, unless we are discussing cowardice? Fear is a powerful emotion; it can speak without uttering a word. While fear may make us seem weak or inferior, it can also affirm our humanity. Fear serves as both a guardian and a ruler, governing our choices and decisions. And believe me, ruling is no easy task, especially in an unstable democracy of emotions and chemicals.

 

Fear as a Survival Mechanism

When the kingdom is under attack, fear can override reason and logic to ensure survival, even if the perceived danger is illusory. Fear acts as a musician, playing the drumbeats of our lives, its music resonating with the world around us. This vibration takes hold of the souls of all living beings.

 

Fear’s Role in Time and Perception

When fear takes charge, we feel our existence connect with the universe. We sense our lives intertwining with something vast and complex. Time slows down, transforming into something else entirely, while our perception sharpens, turning our world into a battlefield.

 

Fear as the Overprotective Mother

Fear can be likened to an overprotective mother, striving to shield her children, yet her protectiveness may hinder their growth and limit their potential. This complex emotion plays dual roles, serving as both protector and sage.

 

Fear’s Parasitic Nature

This inherited facet of our evolution influences our daily behaviors and shapes our character. At times, it turns into a parasite, draining our energy and hindering our progress. Unlike typical parasites, this inner fire originates from our own being; it can stifle our movement or compel us to act impulsively.

 

Fear’s Betrayal in Communication

This force can sometimes act disloyally, betraying its creator. For example, when our fear of judgment undermines our ability to communicate clearly, it jeopardizes our goals ,whether making a good impression or articulating a point. Miscommunication often leads to misunderstandings.

 

The Overwhelming Force of Fear

Viewing the world from this perspective can be enlightening, even if we cannot prove we share the same perceptions. When fear becomes overwhelming, it can manifest as a mentally unstable individual grappling with severe trust issues. This emotion does not easily relinquish control over our destiny or our capacity for change.

 

Fear’s Relationship with Learning and Future Prediction

Fear compels us to obsess over predicting the future and learning from the past, as it intensely despises pain, especially when repeated. Fear’s aversion to pain fuels our motivation and imagination, enabling us to predict effectively and avoid obstacles. Surprisingly, fear can accelerate the learning process.

 

Fear’s Role in Human Beliefs

This complex chemical response empowers human beliefs and convictions, adding a unique spark that transforms them into dogma, shaping our behavior. Fear renders beliefs unquestionable; when we deny our beliefs, we deny our identity. All humans have standards, fortified by fear. Without fear, we are nobody. Fear is, in essence, us.

 

Modern Fears and Illusions

Our fears of change, rejection, the unknown, failure, loneliness, dissatisfaction, and unmet expectations are illusions that have become overly significant in our lives. While desire undeniably influences these fears, they have overshadowed fear’s original purpose: survival and the preservation of our existence.

 

Mental Survival in the 21st Century

We still engage in the same primitive survival game, but today’s survival is more mental than physical. In the 21st century, we battle internal dangers and threats. The technological and scientific revolution has shifted our struggles from the external world to our minds.

 

Emptiness and the Human Spirit

Homo sapiens no longer strive to coexist with the external world; our focus has shifted to mental survival. Humanity, with its problem-solving tendencies, may even create challenges just to enjoy overcoming them. While we abhor pain, we also cannot tolerate emptiness.

 

Fear and the Freedom of Choice

The human spirit is unaccustomed to emptiness and the freedom of choice. We thrive under pressure. Fear, once selected by nature for survival, has become less useful in a world dominated by peace. Our violent nature, no longer expressed physically, threatens either our destruction or our evolution.

 

The Inner Predators

If violence once protected us from external threats, today’s predators reside within us. Can we protect ourselves from ourselves and our potential actions? This is a question we must explore.

 

The Future of Fear

We try to envision virtual dangers to validate fear, but how long can this continue? Is it possible that fear will eventually be selected out by nature and become obsolete? If fear’s only remaining role is in competition, isn’t that more closely related to greed, desire, and humanity’s inherent hunger for power and occupation? Can fear survive in the modern world? That is the question.

 

Written By: Habib Riden

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